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Scroll down or click link to read : 1️⃣ Definition 1️⃣.1️⃣ Humiliation Info-graph 2️⃣ Being humiliated makes you feel 3️⃣ Impact on your health treatment. 4️⃣ Being humiliated activates the freeze stress response. 5️⃣ Tips to deal with humiliation. 6️⃣ NHS legislation

1️⃣ Definition

Humiliation is used to make you feel ashamed or stupid. It is a hurtful way to be treated but is an effective way to get power over you. So you toe the ‘party’ line.

That they get away with the frequency of the deception & misdirect your concerns by trying to shame and blame you is due to a power imbalance.

1️⃣.1️⃣ Humiliation Info-graph

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2️⃣ Being humiliated makes you feel:

▶️ anxious

▶️ miserable

▶️ stunned into silence.

▶️ It feels unfair

2️⃣.1️⃣ and a form of:

▶️ dismissing,

▶️ minimising or trivialising

your concerns.

3️⃣ Impact on your health treatment.

This often results in a further loss of trust in the Healthcare setting. And the use of avoidance to defend yourself against being humiliated again.

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Under normal circumstances, you would avoid this organisation and never go back to them. But this is an establishment that is essential to your survival. So you can’t avoid them as this will mean you will have no access to medical treatment. Or that much needed apology or an explanation to find closure.

4️⃣ Being humiliated activates the freeze stress response.

Because your survival may depend on being able to access healthcare, you cannot turn on the ‘fight stress response’ or turn to the ‘flight stress response’ and walk away. So you do the only thing you can to protect yourself and you withdraw emotionally.

Because the stress response of freeze is activated. you feel you have no control over the situation, and you are left feeling powerless.

5️⃣ Tips to deal with humiliation.

▶️ Tell them to stop and let them know why this behaviour makes you feel disrespected.  

▶️ If they ignore your request. You can stop the conversation and walk away. The biggest risk here is that they might use this against you to dehumanise or demonise you.

▶️ If the only option available to you is to walk away, i would encourage you to put the reasons for your decision in writing and send via email as soon as you feel safe to do so.

▶️ It’s perfectly normal to feel hurt and angry. By all means go and have a good cry, or fire off an ink missile to your draft folder. Feel free to smash a plate against the wall or turn the volume up to max and dance along to your favourite song.  For a while. It is in your best interests to time limit this.

▶️ Then sit down and decide what skills you have that you can use as coping strategies to help you get over this setback and back up and running as quickly and painlessly as possible.  

▶️ Laughter is great medicine. When you have got back up and dusted yourself off, try to find the funny in the situation.  

6️⃣ Read the Legislation that is designed to prevent this behaviour