Gaslighting.

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Scroll down or click link to read: 1️⃣ Definition 1️⃣.1️⃣ Gaslighting Info-graph 2️⃣ Gaslighting behaviours. 3️⃣ Classic Gaslighting lines are. 4️⃣ Beware of Gaslighting ceasefires. 5️⃣ How to cope with Gaslighting behaviour

1️⃣ Definition

Gaslighting is used to get power over you and convince you that you are overreacting or even losing your sanity. As the chain of events did not unfold as you described.

You won’t want to believe that a professional Organisation would try to trick you into doubting yourself. As this is not how trusted health care professionals behave. Bingo. This is exactly how they sow the seeds of doubt in your mind. Until they grow into a green house of uncertainty about the plausibility of your grasp of the events and/or facts.

Sensing your confusion, they use their position of power to sway you into believing that their own thoughts, opinions and memories are the true facts.

1️⃣.1️⃣ Gaslighting Info-graph

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The genius of gaslighting is as no one takes you seriously, you begin to doubt what you have seen and heard with your own eyes and ears. You feel confused and conflicted that you may have misheard or misjudged them. At this point, the NHS has you exactly where they want you. Not able to believe in yourself.

2️⃣ Gaslighting behaviours:

▶️ denial

▶️ contradicting and/or ‘nit picking’ your facts

▶️ reconstructing the reality of what happened.

▶️ blame & shame

▶️ using misdirection of the facts or to distract you from the real issue/s

3️⃣ Classic Gaslighting lines are:

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▶️ That never happened; you did not understand the process.

▶️ “I am the Doctor” 

▶️ “No one has ever disagreed with me before?”

3️⃣.1️⃣ It makes you:

▶️ doubt yourself

▶️ feel confused.

▶️ Question your sanity

3️⃣.3️⃣ Gaslighting takes unfair advantage of the unequal power Doctor/patient relationship and the feel they have a right to question your integrity by continously denying your:

▶️ sequence of events,

▶️ your memories or

▶️ your feelings.

3️⃣.4️⃣ Until, the ‘sparks’ of your confusion and bewilderment cause you to either:

▶️ explode into the fight mode of stress.

▶️ run as fast as you can of the flight of stress mode.

4️⃣ Beware of Gaslighting ceasefires.

Unexpectedly, every now and again. The organisation will throw you a morsel of kindness or fake sympathy. AKA honey poting. Beware. The temporary cease fire is not a change of heart but an attempt to reel you in. 

Making you wonder if you misjudged them and causing you to question your ability to interpret the situation/person. Again.

4️⃣.1️⃣ When the organisation reverts to form. This creates more

▶️ confusion,

▶️ betrayal &

▶️ more more production of your threat-stress hormones.

4️⃣.2️⃣ Which leads to a further questioning of your

▶️ judgement and

▶️ your powers of perception.

Which inevitably leads to a further loss of trust in Health Service employees across the board. 

5️⃣ How to cope with Gaslighting behaviour

▶️ If you attempt to discuss their behaviour, they see this as an personal attack in them and go for the jugglar.

▶️ When you are with them. Keep all communication time limited, and as simple and direct as possible. And an audio record.

▶️ Don’t be confrontational but at the same time don’t allow them to think you believe them Give them permission to change their facts and stance. Yet statistically its unlikely you will convince them that they are wrong.

▶️ If you start to find their behaviour distressing or overwhelming, really focus on their behaviour is not directed at you. It is directed at the situation.